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Unfortunately, your story is a common one these days. Even as Christians, we still let our sinful natures take over sometimes, and often with disastrous results. I’m assuming that you love your girlfriend, and that she loves you, and that you both love God. If that is the case, and you make God the central pillar of your relationship, there is no problem to get married and welcome your new addition to the family. With both parties fully committed to God and to each other, the marriage is unbreakable. However, if you are not both committed to Christ, your relationship is not that secure. I have seen many pregnancies, followed by hasty marriages, and eventual divorce, because the relationship was built on sex alone. That is not a good foundation for a long-term relationship.
What you do is of course your choice. God created each one of us with a free will, and you used your free choice to indulge in pre-marital sex, which has brought you to your present situation. Now, with God’s help and input into your relationship, you once again must choose the way forward. Too many men just turn and run, leaving the poor girl to bring up the baby by herself. That is the coward’s way. Even if you decide not to get married, it is as much your duty as your girlfriend’s, to be fully committed to bring up the baby in the best way possible. If possible, marriage is the preferred option, but many young people use the excuse of “we’re too young to marry”. That is a ridiculous statement, as your ability to create life together, qualifies you for married life together. For the sake of the baby, that is the best outcome. But this is one situation where nobody can prescribe what should be done, as there are many factors involved, and only you and your girlfriend know them all. So, get together, and without putting blame on anyone, work out what the best solution is. Being Christians, you would want to be spending a lot of time in prayer, so God can lead you in the way you should go. I’ll be praying for you as well.
Please put away the guilt. Once you have confessed your sins, and asked God to forgive you, it is forgiven, no matter how you feel. So trust God, and ask Him to help you through the time ahead. He loves you both, and your baby, and is keen for you to build a family around Him.
Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
Philippians 2:13 for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure.
Proverbs 3 5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; 6 in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.
Philippians 4 6 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; 7 and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
God bless as you make the correct decisions for your future!
