My husband is an Alcoholic

Question:

My husband is an Alcoholic. He insists that he is saved. I don’t question that. He also continues to drink everyday and gets drunk every day. He asks God to forgive him and insists that God does and that he will still go to heaven. Am I wrong in telling my husband that God will eventually turn him away if there is no true repentance of this sin. I need scripture to show him. I know lots of scripture on repenting your sin and giving this problem to God, but I can’t find anything on failure to totally turning this addiction over to God. I hope you understand what I am asking. I feel (and scripture backs me on this) that when you ask God to forgive your sins, that you have a renewed energy to change your way of life and renewed strength from the Holy Spirit to help you to stop recommitting your sin. I also realize that an Alcoholic needs to get other help from programs. He admits that he is an alcoholic but refuses to get help.

Answer:

You are quite correct in your statement that God cannot continue to forgive someone who deliberately goes against His will, and has no true repentance when asking for forgiveness. That is taking advantage of God’s grace and no-one can claim to be saved and at the same time keep on sinning deliberately. There will be no alcoholics, or any other addicts in heaven, only those who have handed it over to God, and let Him change their lives. Regular, premeditated sin should not be part of our lives after we have been saved.

Romans 6: 1What shall we say, then? Shall we go on sinning so that grace may increase? 2By no means! We died to sin; how can we live in it any longer? 3Or don’t you know that all of us who were baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into his death? 4We were therefore buried with him through baptism into death in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, we too may live a new life. 5If we have been united with him like this in his death, we will certainly also be united with him in his resurrection. 6For we know that our old self was crucified with him so that the body of sin might be done away with, that we should no longer be slaves to sin—7because anyone who has died has been freed from sin.

Galatians 5: 16 I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. 17 For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish. 18 But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law.

19 Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, 20 idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, 21 envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.

Hebrews 10: 26 If we deliberately keep on sinning after we have received the knowledge of the truth, no sacrifice for sins is left, 27 but only a fearful expectation of judgment and of raging fire that will consume the enemies of God. 28 Anyone who rejected the law of Moses died without mercy on the testimony of two or three witnesses. 29How much more severely do you think a man deserves to be punished who has trampled the Son of God under foot, who has treated as an unholy thing the blood of the covenant that sanctified him, and who has insulted the Spirit of grace? 30 For we know him who said, “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,”

There is no doubt that Jesus died for all our sins, whether they be in the past or future. It is also true that there is no sin that we can commit that cannot be forgiven by God. There is however, a proviso, and that is that we repent and turn from our sins.

1 John 1: 9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

2 Chronicles 7: 14 if My people who are called by My name will humble themselves, and pray and seek My face, and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin and heal their land.

There are people that say that they are addicted, trapped and can never escape their addiction, and that God will have to forgive them in their sin. This seems to be your husband’s problem. But that is saying that Satan is stronger than God. God saves us from our sins, not in them, and He says that we should be transformed, born again, changed, and He gives us the power for the transformation.

Romans 12: 2 And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what isthat good and acceptable and perfect will of God.

John 3: 3 Jesus answered and said to him, “Most assuredly, I say to you, unless one is born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.”

How are we transformed? By dying to self, which means surrendering our lives to God.

John 12: 24 Most assuredly, I say to you, unless a grain of wheat falls into the ground and dies, it remains alone; but if it dies, it produces much grain.

Galatians 2: 20 I have been crucified with Christ; it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me.

2 Corinthians 5:17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.

Philippians 2: 5 Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus,

Luke 9: 23 Then He said to them all, “If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow Me.

1 Corinthians 15: 31 I affirm, by the boasting in you which I have in Christ Jesus our Lord, I die daily.

Titus 3: 4 But when the kindness and the love of God our Savior toward man appeared, 5 not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to His mercy He saved us, through the washing of regeneration and renewing of the Holy Spirit,

Ezekiel 36: 25 Then I will sprinkle clean water on you, and you shall be clean; I will cleanse you from all your filthiness and from all your idols. 26 I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit within you; I will take the heart of stone out of your flesh and give you a heart of flesh. 27 I will put My Spirit within you and cause you to walk in My statutes, and you will keep My judgments and do them.

Philippians 2: 13 for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure.

One thing is certain, very few people have the strength and will power in them to kick an addiction by themselves. So, if we want to be transformed, freed from any and all addictions, we have to die daily to self, which means that we have to turn our entire life over to Him, daily, hourly, every second if we must. He then works in and through us to wipe out the addiction. Nobody need be an addict to anything, for God is able to do everything that is needed to transform us!

Your husband needs help, and the first thing is that you explain what God requires of him. This needs to be done in a spirit of love, and with a lot of prayer. I pray that together you will turn to God and let Him give your husband the strength to turn from his problem. God bless!

We trust this Bible based answer brings you comfort and peace. Be assured that Jesus loves you very much and there are many other people who are there to help you both. Continue to pray and seek God’s direction and help in finding the support network that help you both. We will pray for your success.

2 Corinthians 5:17

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.

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